Having children definitely changes your world. I saw a video the other day that reminded me of what life used to be like back in the day after a night out partying. It gave me such a good laugh and made me miss the old days a little bit. It reminded me how much fun we used to have. However, now that I am in my 30’s, there is no way in a million years I’d be able pull an all nighter and head into work for 9:00 a.m. the next morning. I’d still be recovering 2 days later! And, as stated in part one (click here to read) kids do not sleep in, and so therefore I do not sleep in. Staying out all night long just does not make sense anymore right now. Just one of the changes children bring to life! You know what else they bring?
Unconditional Love, countless snuggles, and a purpose.
7 (more) ways my life has changed since becoming a mom.
- Hugs cure everything. No matter how bad my day is going, a hug from my toddler can make it better. I mean it. He is the best hugger I know. He is a smart little guy, and just seems to know when I need a hug. The other day was a rough one, and I know he could tell mama was off. I was in the kitchen and he ran by me to go upstairs. When he came back down he handed me a teddy bear with a heart attached that says “I love you”. I crouched down to him and he gave me the biggest squeeze…This kid is just amazing. I still have tears in my eyes.
- I found out that I really am stronger than I thought. There are no sick days, there’s no playing hooky…. I get up and get the job done. NO MATTER WHAT. Now, some might say… how is that a good thing? Because it has taught me strength, that I never knew existed. Being on duty 24/7, 365 days a year, no matter how sick or tired I am, has made me stronger than I have ever been in my life.
- I know the true meaning of “Unconditional Love”. Honestly, in my eyes, my boys can do no harm. They can seriously push every single one of my buttons, make me lose hair (literally), make me question my sanity, and make me need to take many deep breaths to calm down….but at the same time, they could murder someone and I would still love them. Unconditionally, forever.
- I get to experience childhood all over again. SANTA!!! Christmas really was magical growing up, my mom and dad made every year so incredibly special, I will never forget it. To this day, I 100% believe in the magic of Christmas, and that is because of them. Now it’s my turn. I get to experience it all over again and I get to watch the joy in the eyes of my children every Christmas Eve, Christmas morning, and every other magical holiday. I also get to play on playgrounds, and jump around on the trampoline, I get to watch Saturday morning cartoons, play with the coolest toys, build the biggest block towers, and so much more. I get to be a kid again!
- So many feelings! The constant feelings and emotions I feel include: Unconditional love, being needed, wanted, being proud, purpose, and accomplishment. I have always wanted to feel needed, and the second I became a mom, actually no…The second I knew I was pregnant was the day I truly felt needed. That little baby needed me to give my all, to ensure he grew and developed properly while on the inside. Once he came out into the big world, he needed me every single moment of his little life. Every hour, every minute, every second, I was, and am, needed – and it is wonderful. Being wanted is one of my favorite feelings too, especially when it’s for a snuggle. “No Dada, Mama only” Is probably one of my favorite things that my toddler says. It doesn’t happen very often (#dadasboy) but when it does, for example when he is sick, hurt, scared or sad, you can be sure Dada is being pushed out of the way and Mama is the Go-To. And it’s awesome. Being the best mom I can to these two little boys is my main purpose in life, and it is also the most important thing I will ever do. I am already so proud of both of them and can’t wait to see what life has in store for them.
- I became a part of the “I get it” parenting community, and it is one hell of a supportive community. I have met some pretty awesome friends along this journey. It’s nice to know I’m not alone during all the ups and down of parenthood. It’s so good to be able to have someone to call up, or text and ask “So…. um… is it normal for….” I also have a whole new level of respect for the mom of a newborn at the store with her toddler that is having a hard time. I’ve been there (I’m still there) take your time, I get it.
- I will have someone there when I need them the most. I always knew that family was the most important thing in the world, but this past year has really opened my eyes. My grandmother unfortunately took a fall a couple months back and has been in the hospital and now a rehab centre ever since. Knowing what my mom does every single day, even before the fall, is truly beautiful. She is there for my grandmother every single day. It’s so heartbreaking to know there are so many elders who don’t have family members by their side in such hard times. It is very reassuring to know that one day, when I need them the most, my boys will be by my side.
I have realized since becoming a parent that the little things really do matter. Those lazy Sunday mornings, sitting down and appreciating a home cooked meal, ice cream cones on a warm summer night are just a few of the things that mean so much to me, and it’s what is most cherished. I appreciate those moments more now. Yes, life certainly looks different than it did 5 years ago, but to be honest, this is exactly who I pictured myself to be, and I am becoming the best version of myself, and I have my boys to thank for that.