Did you know it is healthy to breastfeed your baby?
Did you know it is healthy to formula feed you baby?
Did you know it is okay to sleep train your baby?
Did you know it is okay to not sleep train your baby?
Did you know it is okay to be a working mom?
Did you know it is okay to be a stay at home mom?
Did you know it is okay to take a day off from your kids?
Did you know it is okay to not want to take a day off from your kids?
Did you know it okay to send your kids to daycare, or school?
Did you know it is okay to keep them home or home school them?
Did you know it okay to let you child watch tv?
Did you know it is okay to not let your child watch tv?
Did you know it was okay to serve only organic meals?
Did you know it was okay to not serve organic meals?
Did you know it was okay to have a schedule?
Did you know it was okay to go with the flow?
Did you know it was okay to make your own choice of how to raise your own children?
What a concept.
Being a victim to this kind of shaming sucks.
It happened to me when I made the choice to sleep train my boys. When my first son was was about 6 months old we decided to look into the idea of sleep training. Our decision for doing this was ours, and it made sense for our family. We did our research and found an amazing sleep consultant who helped us through the process (twice, as we did it with our second son as well) Unfortunately we did become “that” family, for a short period of time, that had to say no to lots of plans and outings, had to cut things short and miss out. A lot of people shook their heads at us, and didn’t understand why we had to say no, but you know what? it worked for us, and I don’t regret one second if it. Both our boys are solid sleepers, and can sleep anywhere. It was crucial to us that our babies get healthy sleep because “Children at this age need healthy sleep for proper development, to boost their immune systems, and to help them take in the big, bright, ever-changing world around them” – The Happy Sleep Company. My husband and I now have our evenings alone together, and our boys are happy, well rested little men.
This is just one of my examples of when I was mom shamed for doing something I felt was important for our family. It’s time we stop criticizing people for doing things that work for them, and start supporting each other through the good, the bad, and the ugly. Remember, “those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss
Parenting is hard enough as it is.